Domestic Abuse

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I need to start off by talking about the Canadian laws regarding domestic abuse, once the police are called by a spouse they have to arrest the offender. Once the person is arrested even if the defender says they don't want to proceed the person has to appear before a judge in trial. Often times this person has to stay in jail because there is a need to protect the victim.

I have seen victims to that law and once you’re at the mercy of a woman who wants justice is you will be in the loophole for a long time. Once your woman is at that point then it's something that you both will never ever heal from and in order to avoid it I'm going to need to break it down.

Since ever this Rihanna versus Chris Brown thing popped up I have kept my eye on it. The story being told by the media shows Rihanna being an aggressor on a few occasions before and we would have to trace it back to these times. The times were a woman should not be allowed to hit a man when they get temper tantrums or some type of mood swing.

I think I speak for all men who have been in the position. It takes a lot to get hit and not act out on defending yourself. It takes a lot to get yelled at, criticized or be belittled and not say anything back however that negative energy is inside you and has to be release somewhere.

Usually these hits or certain behaviour start off as really small, innocent and playful. The two scoff it off as the woman showing her independence or that she is (Sasha) Fierce. Which is cool but if you give a person of any nature one inch they will end up taking two, that's just human nature. So the situation is handled as it progresses but then there comes a time when the specific incidents happened so many times that it built up in a man and he eventually lashes out.

First it's by breaking something in the house or by "putting the woman in her place" which can be done through various methods that I don't want to go over. Any man or woman reading this has gone through this period were "stfu" doesn't work anymore or were you have walked away so many times or punched a wall or whatever to let it out but then you find yourself in the same circle.

I don't know about you all, in my case I have yet to find a woman who is willing to sit down and talk things over, "this is what I did wrong and I'm sorry". We live in a society where it’s ok for women to avoid that conversation and that can be frustrating because both parties have to own up to their responsibilities before wounds get to heal. If they aren't owned up to the cancer lingers in the air and eventually someone will have to blow up.

The incident with Rihanna and Chris brown is allegedly over a text message but that's just the straw that broke the camel's back. Here we are, it’s ALL Chris' fault and nobody is looking at all the events that led up to him lashing out the way he did. Nobody is looking at the fact that there were no violent incidents before that all the sudden a man beats down the woman he loves. Nobody is looking at it like; he must've held allot of that anger inside which is not saying that I condone his actions.

There is no excuse for violence in a relationship, MAN or WOMAN. Why? because the pain is the same on both sides and no woman should be beat down like the way Rihanna did, that is inexcusable, after the first hit as a grown man you have to stop and control the animal instincts within and I know we as men have all gone through this phase were a woman pushed it too far.

In closing I want to send a message to all men out there that if your woman gets you in a position where you have to fend her off push her off, or give a jab back out of anger then chances are that she will get you in a position where it may escalate and turn in to jail time for assault or even murder.

It’s easy for me to type it down here as oppose to just do it but the best option is to leave the situation and never return. It sounds insensitive on my end and may be one reason why I haven't stuck around someone for too long. But the consequences can be more deadly for the spirit, the heart, the mind and the soul and if you don't want to scar hers or yours more than it needs to be then I suggest you leave...

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